Blood Is The New Black

I do so love giving my posts a quirky “wtf” title. Today’s is brought to you by the title of a episode of some crime show I saw on youtube. I like it.

Besides, it may end up being appropriate. My kid is playing with a glow in the dark meat cleaver I got her for Halloween years ago, thinking plastic is going to cut things up. She’s also packing her make up around in one of those velvet Crown Royal bags, which I damn well know my sister gave her because I would never pay that much for my booze. Fuck quality, give me quantity.

I broke down and showered at bedtime last night because well, it wasn’t cooled down enough and I felt icky so I mustered all my strength for the exhausting hair washing excursion. Then I took 0.5 mg Xanax and eventually fell asleep. That made 2.5 mg for the whole day (thank you dr appointment) and yet…Still took awhile to nod off. Then came the dreams. And the waking up again and again.

To add to the joy, I got water in my ear in the shower and now it won’t come out. On one hand, yay, it’s a damper on my kid’s noise. On the other, it’s like hearing everything in mono instead of stereo. Heavy metal in mono, does not want.

I feel like living dead girl. That appointment and its disappointment outcome really set me back a lot. I’d had such hope for this doctor, was being so optimistic and hopeful. See what it gets me? I felt he was dismissive yesterday, took maybe eight whole minutes with me. And no doubt the fact I had pants on and my kid was with me meant I am all cured. So frustrated. It pissed me off,ย  never mind the factual nature of the comment, that he said it so dismissively. “Oh, you’ll enjoy things again, you don’t stay in one mood for too long.” Yep, eight months in a depression is pretty fucking mild. I’m just dramatic.

Of course, I read about what Zoe has to deal with and feel bad for even bitching because while my care is iffy, hers is just offensive to human kind.

Thing is,it’s the norm rather than the exception. For every one who gets a good mental healthcare team, there are dozens of us being given Snoopy band aids for our gaping wounds. And yet society can’t figure out why mental health problems are so prevalent and not improving.

It should piss us all off and make us angry. We’re programed to believe that because we have a mental issue, all our anger is misplaced, unhealthy, and a byproduct of our disorders. I maintain that certain things, like lackluster mental healthcare, child abuse, animal cruelty- such things should make everyone steaming mad.

I am supposed to take the car by the shop today so R can finish putting in that stereo, he ran out of connectors last night so only two speakers are connected and it needs the dash plate replaced. I’m not feeling it, of course. I need to do dishes, finish laundry, mow the lawn. And it’s already humid as fuck and I’m having trouble breathing.(Please note on the milder days, I don’t complain, but when it gets so warm I can barely breathe and have cat hair sticking to my moist skin…I am gonna bitch incessantly cos it’s just uncomfortable.)

I did something yesterday that was very liberating. I got that five bucks from R’s stepdad for burning that disc and there was a yard sale across from where we had to get cat food…So I stopped and I’ll be damned if they didn’t have the giant two foot long wooden tiki fork and spoon you put on the wall. I’d had them once before back in the past, no clue where they went. When the donor was around, I’d commented how much I wanted them again. And he got his panties in a bunch and said nooo, those are tacky. Well, I haggled with the yard sale lady, got them for a buck each, and put them on my kitchen wall. I am tacky, fuck off. It felt like finally, I’ve been able to cut loose of all his judgments and snobbery. I mean, I’ve been doing what I want all along for the most part, but this particular act of “rebellion” felt damned good. I like what I like, who gives a damn if it’s tacky. My first husband had beer lights and mirrors and have naked beer chick posters and these awful bull horns mounted above the bed…I didn’t like it, cos it wasn’t my thing, but we agreed to disagree. The donor just felt so judgey, I felt like I had to adapt to his tastes. Now I just need a fucking spork to go with ’em ๐Ÿ™‚ LONG LIVE TACKINESS.

It’s kind of like the idgets who make snarky comments about the rock posters on my walls. “You’re not a teenager, when are you gonna grow up?”

Never. Is never good for you? I like ’em, it’s who I’ve always been, ‘cos I love rock n roll. Yeah, I’m 42, big fucking deal. My mom is 65 and her room is a damned Elvis shrine. Not all of us want perfectly coordinated duck patterns or cow everything. My eclectic mix of used kitsch is fun for me. Who does it hurt?

It feels good. I broke free of the emotional stuff with the donor a couple of months after he was gone. Never liked him anyway, always found him snobby and fake, my gut knew he was not my kind of people. I’ve railed endlessly about his abandoning Spook and once again, that should make anyone angry. You leave your partner, you don’t abandon your own flesh and blood. But the rest…I didn’t even miss him, I was relieved once he was gone. And now…It feels like I’ve even cut loose all his judgments that made me so ill at ease and probably sparked me judging him back.

Now for the next chapter, which terrifies me. R has been bitching at me incessantly the last four years to go after the donor, mercilessly, for child support. I tried the paperwork once, but I missed a deadline and I was just a mess, so I let it slide while the depression raged. After that, it was just like, ya know, when I signed her up for public aid, they assured me if he was working, he’d be paying, they just let them go four or five years until it adds up to a certain amount. Between R and my dad nagging on me, I was rebelling and in denial that I needed to take care of it. Always hoping he’d do the right thing without a court having to tell him to.

Last week, after R bitched at me some more, I used his printer and went to the state website and printed out the papers. For the last week, they’ve been sitting there. Because I know what the donor said about his other kids. If he wasn’t paying, he had no right to see them. If he does pay, then he expects to see them. Well, after four years and all his sociopathic mind games, and my current less than stellar mind frame…I’m petrified to open that door. And I’ve already told R that he’s gonna be the go between because I absolutely cannot deal with The Donor. It’s not some petty hate thing or jealousy that he replaced me a younger more mousy model to dote on his every word. It’s because he has always played mind games, and used my condition against me, to distort things to the point I had to take notes cos I thought I was making shit up and losing my mind.

But it’s not about me, it’s about Spook and I am gonna have to put on the big girl panties and handle the paperwork soon. I don’t see how it will help much, as he’s kind of transient. He works, but he changes jobs a lot, he’s known for ditching town when life gets “too depressing”. He’s not dependable, even if it comes out of his check. If he quits that job and it takes awhile for him to find another or he leaves the state…It’s just one more can of stressful worms I avoid because I’m already so clusterfucked. No excuse, just an explanation, and one I think makes absolute sense.

Still, pen and paper are avoiding each other.I am just better without him in our lives. And besides, he’s had four years where he could have placed a call, come to the door, even mailed her a birthday gift. He has chosen not to be involved, to not even pretend to care. I kept my address and all my numbers and emails the same, so I couldn’t be accused of keeping him from contacting her. He, on the other hand, stomped on his phone the night he broke up with me with a phone call and gave no forwarding address or new number. I think he’s a sociopath. I may be uneven but I feel guilty for being shitty to people. That makes me superior to him. Not in a snotty way, just…Oh, whatever.

When I sat down to write this like, eighty minutes ago, it was supposed to be a silly vapid “let me vent” short post. Not my strong suit, writing short posts. It’s like a Billy Mays commercial…”Call in the next ten minutes to get your free shipping….BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE!”

It occurred to me last night that I sent off my disability review papers at the end of February. Now it’s basically August and not a single fucking word. I know government moves at the speed of a stone statue, but still. The waiting is interminable. Cruel, for someone with an anxiety disorder and a kid to support. Knowing this current doctor probably won’t support my claim because of his apathy and dismissal has me gnawing my nails. Figuratively, since nail biting isn’t one of my bad habits. I just want to know, yay or fucking nay. Rip that goddamn bandage off. If they cancel me out…I’m gonna fight it. Not sure how to get by in the meantime as I’d rather live in a cardboard box than have to crash on a couch at one of the parents’ house…But I see enough every day in this town, people faking injuries, drawing disability, yet spending every dime on booze, drugs, partying. It’s disgusting. I’ve made every damned effort. I mean, 22 years of fucking doctors and meds and therapists and all their stupid little methods that don’t work. I have done everything I am supposed to do. I even track it every day with this blog. I get out of the house, I try to interact with others, force myself to do things, get my kid cared for and off to school, and now I’ve even found an amazing support system here on wordpress that has helped immensely in keeping me fighting the long depression and all the med nightmares…

I will not sit idly by while others abuse the system. In fact, I’ll probably be out with the video camera,catching all these fakers and their partying. I don’t party. I haven’t had a date in four years. I don’t go to concerts even though I love music. I have a legit illness. It makes me homicidal to think of all these people who don’t and are living it up. Mood providing, if I am canceled, I’m launching all out war.

And ya know, it’s not just people on social security disability. One of the worst offenders I’ve seen is this guy that hangs out with my brother in law. Complete and utter stoner who’d pop algae cleaner tablets if told it’d get him buzzed. He was in the army, great job, great income, got to travel, had a nice car…And then he decided he didn’t like not being able to get high and play X Box when it suited him so he did this whole mental breakdown bit. He gets discharged, hefty pension every month, no effort to find work, just lives with his grandparents, spends all the money on pot, and half lives at my mom’s playing video games with brother in law. That is sickening. This is the loser who calls me or shows up at my door a few times a year either looking for an easy lay (gotta love the reverberation from manic days when I did such shit) or asking if I have any heavy duty painkillers because “Niki always has drugs.”

Correction: Niki always had anti depressants and mood stabilizers. Last prescription painkiller I had was right after Spook was born and it was just a beefed up version of ibuprofen. I have never been one for pain killers, they make me loopy. Aside from when I had all my dental problems and had to have Tylenol with codeine, I don’t even remember having strong pain killers.Just goes to show how delusional some people are.

Oh, I just got my call to put one more spoke in the anxiety cycle, from her school. On line registration is open. I pre-registered her in June. Now I have to do it again, and I don’t remember my username and password for their website. Then I’ll have to go by the school to drop off the paper. Then on the 13th is open house night and you’re supposed to have all their school supplies by then. And I have yet to get her birthday present, and cough up the money for last year’s tech fee, plus this year’s as well.

Guess I won’t be getting any decent razors again this month and will have to continue maiming my bite laden legs with the twin blade 10 cent a razor weed whackers. I’m not a princess, I swear, but it just fucking hurts…

I could probably go on some more but I won’t. I just needed a good vent and purge. Now back to my new hobby of sweating my ass off (yet my ass never gets any smaller). Much like getting my head shrunk never seems to make my mental issues shrink any smaller.

Oh, and to add to my tragedy…Diane went and road a Giraffe through a grocery without me yesterday! (Don’t ask, it’s just funny.)

 

 

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42 Responses to “Blood Is The New Black”

  1. Ummm,,, ok. First I didn’t just go n’ ride my giraffe – Jake (pronounced /Jฤkฤ“/ he’s Amish, I do live in Lancaster,,,) intentionally by myself. I was on my way to pick YOU up from YOUR Dr appointment. However, on my way I thought I’d NICELY stop at the grocery store to get us BOTH some cold drinks since it’s sooo hot. While inside, I ACCIDENTALLY sneeze & scare/startle Jake, we go flying chasing people all over down the isles, shit’s flying here & there, cans falling, old ladies screaming,,, next thing, i’m pulled off Jake, cuffs on (I forget my safe word,,,) finger printed, again,,,, 2 hours later, I get to your Dr office, hand ya yer soda (MANGORITA) we laugh,,, smoke some cigs. Both climb onto Jake, take off & terrorize the everyone in sight on the way to the bar. Sooo,,, tell that part of the store the way it happened, we had a blast. You know I got’cher back, Morgue! Love ya! ;p

  2. *story (not store) drunk phone! Oh & giraffes are funnier than shit when they’re drunk, aren’t they! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Ya know, I guess I had so many Mangoritas I blacked out on all that fun stuff, assfuckery! Love ya back, Giraffe lady.

      On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 2:26 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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    • This drunken phone outbreak has me questioning if smart phone is a euphamism for “has drinking problem.”

      • Ummm, smart people have drinking problems, so you can’t assume smart phones gotta be sober phones,,, ;p

      • Brings new meaning to the meme, “Go home internet, you’re drunk.”

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 3:17 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Go home giraffe, you’re drunk!

      • Do you think giraffes can actually get drunk? I mean, with such long necks, by the time the booze gets to the stomach, it’s probably evaporated.

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 3:20 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • IDK,,, ‘Pure grain’, Bacardi 151, “Palcohol”ยฉยฎโ„ข (multiple packs in least amount of liquid)??? Where there’s a will, there’s a way,,,

      • I.V. DRIP wide open is how I want mine. ๐Ÿ˜€

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 3:44 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Until optimum BAL achieved, then maintain correct DPM (drip per minute). WTF!! What are we? Mentally ill drunken alchemists? Smd, for shame, for shame Morgue & Diane!! ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Duude, if I drank as much as I talk about, I wouldn’t be depressed, I’d be passed out 24-7! But much like dreaming of stability, my hope is, if I talk about it…It sucks less than it not actually happening.

        Now tell that giraffe to POUR faster.

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 3:53 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Hahaha! Me too I hear ya. I hardly drink at all anymore. I used to drink 5 – 6/night every night for 20ish yrs. POURING!! ๐Ÿ˜‰ you should see (Jake’s) giraffe meds dosages!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Is his sleeping pill the size of a hubcap and called necku-tal? I think that’s what Marilyn Monroe overdosed on…No, wait, that was nebutal. My bad.

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 4:00 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • That just made me sooo sad, (*trigger) I had a pet turtle that ODd on that shit, wasn’t funny, never quite recovered, after that he could only swim in circles! ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

      • My apologies for being so shell-fish. I suck.

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 4:06 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Most people are shell shocked when I tell this heart breaking story,,, I never found out where the drugs came from or if it was accidental, planned, malicious. It hurts, I just gotta keep telling the story, maybe prevent another tragedy,,, no apologies necessary,,,,

      • It was the Kennedy’s man. That turtle was keeping state secrets under its shell and had to be stopped from talking.

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 4:21 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Wow, conspiracy!! Illuminati!!

      • And I got cameras all around watching me,,, WTH! whatever! ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • I am not right, but I am euphoric , sitting in center/square of Lancaster city playing in da’ water sprinklers with my sidekick! Woo HOO! BOOOMM!!

      • Least you have the gumption to do that much. I’ve got no “let’s have some fun” in me. Least swapping snarkastic comments isn’t taxing on my scumbag brain.

        If you happen to see my zest for life riding by on a giraffe…Please return it. And ya best not send me a damned bar of soap called Zest and expect a reward ๐Ÿ˜‰

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 4:25 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Will do, you read my mind, dammit, no soap!!! ๐Ÿ˜ฆ I feel HIGH, let me tell you, IT’S GOOD!!! SINSHINE ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • Feeling good? Sunshine??? I could not be more horrified if faced with Leatherface, Jason Vorhees, and Freddy Kruger.

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 4:31 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Honestly, I feel STONED!! at 11:30 this am, I was seriously having suicidal thoughts, I wanna stay like THIS CHICKA! BOOM! wish I could ‘share’ my feelings!

      • Bottle them bitches up and get that IV going for me!

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 4:37 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • At your door tomorrow 8:00 AM, special delivery Water Buffalo Express ok??

      • I spose, but I was looking forward to you cruising up on the giraffe wearing those cute brown uniforms like UPS people do…Water buffalo is fine, just wear a tinfoil hat so I can tell you apart from all the rednecks riding their water buffalo around town.

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 4:41 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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      • Picky picky picky! Oooook,,, WBX uniforms aren’t brown, they’re neon blue/white bikinis! you’ll know it’s mee! Haha,,,

      • Bit maybe, come to think about it, there’s a shit ton of smart phones at all the bars I’ve ever been to,,,

      • And now AA has to open yet another branch of support groups…

        On Fri, Jul 31, 2015 at 3:19 PM, Take a Ride on My Mood Swing wrote:

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  3. OMG YOU TWO!! โค

  4. Hahaha! Like I said, rocks for brains!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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